In 2007 the book "All the Rules" was published. The authors claimed it could help a woman find a man to marry her. The rules they listed were various approaches to dating that included manipulation and sexual politics. The book described dating as a game and marriage as a trophy for playing this game according to the rules, hence the name of the book.
Of course these people could have saved themselves a lot of trouble if they would have checked out the "old" rules about finding a mate contained in Exodus 20. Here are a few samples:
Rule #1 – Be Honest
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
- Exodus 20:16
Actually it says not to lie about another but the principle is there. Honesty & sincerity are the basics upon which a solid relationship can begin and grow. This includes being yourself and refusing to play games in order to gain control.
Rule #2 – Be Pure
You shall not commit adultery.
- Exodus 20:14
Sexual purity is the best guarantee against physical, emotional and spiritual harm. Mom & dad were right – if they don't respect you before marriage, they won't after.
Rule #3 – Be Holy
I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery.
- Exodus 20:2
If we are dedicated to God and search for a like partner we will preserve our faith and increase our chances for a successful marriage.
There are many new rules being invented concerning relationships these days, however, the "old" rules still produce the things we truly desire – happy, lasting marriages and peaceful homes.