The "Old" Rules

In 2007 a book "All the Rules" was published. The authors claimed it could help a woman find a man to marry her.
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Several years ago the book All the Rules was published. The authors claimed it could help a woman find a man to marry her. The rules they listed were various approaches to dating that included manipulation and sexual politics. The book described dating as a game and marriage as a trophy for playing this game according to the "rules," hence the name of the book.

Of course these people could have saved themselves a lot of trouble if they would have checked out the "old" rules about finding a mate contained in Exodus 20. Here are a few samples:

Rule #1 – Be Honest

You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
- Exodus 20:16

Actually it says not to lie about another but the principle is there. Honesty and sincerity are the basics upon which a solid relationship can begin and grow. This includes being yourself and refusing to play games in order to gain control.

Rule #2 – Be Pure

You shall not commit adultery.
- Exodus 20:14

Sexual purity is the best guarantee against physical, emotional and spiritual harm. Mom and dad were right – if they don't respect you before marriage, they won't after.

Rule #3 – Be Holy

"Speak to all the congregation of the sons of Israel and say to them, 'You shall be holy, for I the Lord your God am holy.
- Leviticus 19:2

If we are dedicated to God and search for a like partner we will preserve our faith and increase our chances for a successful marriage.

There are many new rules being invented concerning relationships these days, however, the "old" rules still produce the things we truly desire – happy, lasting marriages and peaceful homes.

Discussion Questions

  1. What quality in a man/woman is most important to you? Why?
  2. What "rules" would you add to the ones already mentioned in this devo?
  3. What advice would you give someone who is contemplating a serious relationship with an unbeliever?