The "Old" Rules
Several years ago the book All the Rules was published. The authors claimed it could help a woman find a man to marry her. The rules they listed were various approaches to dating that included manipulation and sexual politics. The book described dating as a game and marriage as a trophy for playing this game according to the "rules," hence the name of the book.
Of course these people could have saved themselves a lot of trouble if they would have checked out the "old" rules about finding a mate contained in Exodus 20. Here are a few samples:
Rule #1 – Be Honest
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
- Exodus 20:16
Actually it says not to lie about another but the principle is there. Honesty and sincerity are the basics upon which a solid relationship can begin and grow. This includes being yourself and refusing to play games in order to gain control.
Rule #2 – Be Pure
You shall not commit adultery.
- Exodus 20:14
Sexual purity is the best guarantee against physical, emotional and spiritual harm. Mom and dad were right – if they don't respect you before marriage, they won't after.
Rule #3 – Be Holy
"Speak to all the congregation of the sons of Israel and say to them, 'You shall be holy, for I the Lord your God am holy.
- Leviticus 19:2
If we are dedicated to God and search for a like partner we will preserve our faith and increase our chances for a successful marriage.
There are many new rules being invented concerning relationships these days, however, the "old" rules still produce the things we truly desire – happy, lasting marriages and peaceful homes.
- What quality in a man/woman is most important to you? Why?
- What "rules" would you add to the ones already mentioned in this devo?
- What advice would you give someone who is contemplating a serious relationship with an unbeliever?